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[Original IP]

Dear moderator, I know you closed off the thread warning against a Toronto-area donor, but as the original IP who has not yet been heard here, I feel the ethical obligation to set the record straight. My post contains nothing libelous or incendiary.

I am the original recipient in Vancouver whose betrayal by the donor in question last year is the subject of a thread yesterday entitled \"Warning: Toronto Donor -- Everybody Read.\"

I don’t normally use this or any other board, but someone pointed these postings out to me and I feel the need to come in and set the record straight. Please don’t respond to it in the hope that I’ll read it. I won’t. I will post this message and then never visit the website again.

Let me set the record straight.

To personalize the story and because I know the donor is lurking, let me tell the story in the second person – addressed to “you,â€

[original IP]

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and had done a telephone screening with you, and in fact you continued to communicate directly with the DE nurse on your own, I had had all my preliminary work done, and we were all just waiting for your period to come so you could have your Day 3 tests. Some of our emails to each other and to the clinic concern the fact that since you and your partner were moving to Toronto in September, we all wanted to do the process as soon as possible in August, and we were all working toward this. As the time neared, you and I were on the phone or email every day counting down the days – 27, 28.….. You were apparently on day 29 and wondering why your period was “lateâ€

[original IP]

.... continued (sorry for the length)

That’s the human side of it, which is really all I’m concerned with. If you want to talk about the legal aspects, you haven’t got a leg to stand on.

First, and most obviously, what you are doing in the first place– selling your eggs in Canada to strangers for a profit – is illegal.

Secondly, the “cease and desistâ€

[donorkf]

I realize that\"Original IP\" is not going to be returning to this board, so I want to address this to any potential recipients out there....

I am a donor or I will be next month (my first retrieval is set for the middle of next month). I just wanted to take a few moments to let potential IP's know that not all donors are like this bottomfeeder Lindsay. The ED I am doing right now is open and I have become very close with my IM, not only can I call her my recipient, I am PROUD to call her my friend. I could not ask for better recipients than I have gotten. They are the type of people that anyone would LOVE to have as parents. It breaks my heart to hear what they have gone through and it really is an honor and a priviledge to be their donor. As crazy as I KNOW this sounds...Sometimes I lay in bed at night an wonder if my DNA is even \"worthy\" of this couple. My husband and I have met my IPs 3xs and there is a calmness that comes over me when I am in their presence. My IM and I have spoken on the phone numerous times and from the mere sound of her voice I know that this is \"right.\"
It really bothered me when I read these posts b/c I never realized the fear that my IPs are living with daily, wondering if I'm going to do what Lindsay did. Although I've told them many times that I'm in this NO MATTER WHAT, its only natural that they have some doubts.

There is a method to my maddness....I'm writing this b/c I want recipients to know that there really are some donors out there that are in this for the right reasons. While I am ashamed to admit it, I'll be the first one to do so.....when a friend first mentioned ED to me, I thought, \"the money would be nice.\" However; this is about so much more than dollar signs now. I feel a true connection with my IPs (almost to the point of guilt when I think about my fee) and I genuinely want this to work for them. This seems so \"meant to be\" I can't even put it into words!!

Original IP: I know you said you were never going to return to this board, but just in case...You never mentioned in your post if you did eventually find a donor. I hope there was a happy ending to your story and if not, I hope you take what I said to heart. I truly believe that everything happens for a reason. DO NOT give up. You WILL have the child you were meant to have.

WITH LOTS OF BABY DUST....
Momof3